Valentine's Day

Love, the most widely used but least understood word in the whole while world. A mother’s sacrifice, a father’s proud, a sibling’s fight, a broken heart’s tragedy and a lover’s heartbeat. Love a just a four letter word which makes your world turn inside out, out and about. You don’t really step in it, you fall in it, head over heels, no holds barred. If you are in you are in and certainly there is no way out. People have been grown up over the years listening to love sucks, love hurts, it’s over rated and all, but basically the thing to be remembered is that love is the greatest feeling you’ll ever feel in your otherwise sad and pathetic life. Love doesn’t suck, rejection sucks. Love doesn’t hurt, being in love with someone who won’t ever be in love with you sucks.

Now I know the dynamics of love have changed over the years. The love which happened over passing of notes is now changed to texting and phone calls. The secret meetings have changed to video calls on Skype, but as a whole the dynamics of the feeling are still the same. Your heartbeat still rises when you are about to open a text from the one you love as same as which happened when you opened a love note. You still get sweaty palms, blurred vision and increase heartbeat when you meet the one you love. The only thing that has actually changed is the point of view of people in love. They need something to define their love by, the need to sleep with each other to prove they are loyal. They need to make their loved ones their own to prove how much they love them.

Being in the idea of being in love and actually being in love are two different things. You can spend hours and hours thinking about the perfect mate for you, their physical traits, their mental traits, their fashion sense and all that shit but you need to realize that love happens when it happens. You can fall in love with a person whom you have known practically your whole life. One morning you wake up and you realize you love that person. But that doesn’t mean the other person has to have the same feelings too.

Love reinvents itself. You will fall once but you’ll keep falling over and over again for the same person even on the smallest of things like how they talk or how they speak. You’ll start loving them entirely, along with all of their faults and wrongs because you just can’t imagine your life without that one person. Love is the reason you’ll be happy. A simple litmus test to see if your present relationship is based on love or just mutual attraction is you yourself need to analyze if you are happy in it. You should be in a relationship if it makes you happy, simple. The feeling to being all closed up, no able to breathe, lack of personal space only happens when you don’t love that other person.

Love doesn’t judge. If you love a person, accept them as they are and not as how you want them to be. If there is a certain attribute of that certain person you don’t like, just talk to them. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Don’t just go on judging people based on what they do. A poor man can be rich at heart and an insanely rich one can be a pouty one.

Love forgives. If you are in a happy relationship but still out of some reason the other person commits a mistake, you should have the heart to forgive. Move on or not that comes in later, but the feeling of hatred now shatters all the feelings of love before. You will know if the person is sorry for what they don’t or not. In any case, love acts as a bigger person and when there is love, there is no place for anything else.

Love is of different kinds. But seeing as the title of this piece was Valentine’s Day, I think only a certain type of love qualifies for it. NO, Valentine’s is not the day to celebrate love; it’s the day to celebrate the one with who you are in love with. Mother’s love and all other types of love have the rest of the year; this day is specially reserved for someone special.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

The above quote from the holy bible pretty much sums all of the things I have said and even more. So you could just have read that too. Your choice.