Pain

As the lead singer for The Door, Jim Morrison puts it beautifully,“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” 

Everyone feels pain, no matter how much they claim to be made of stone to be. We feel pain so in our daily life that we even choose to ignore the most of it. Even a foot in the wrong shoe causes us pain, a simple thorn, a pinch, no text from a certain someone can cause pain but it happens with us so much that our mind and body choose to ignore it. Pain is basically of two types, the physical pain and the mental pain. But in some special circumstances both can happen together. You mind might be so fucked up that it actually, physically hurts. Let’s talk only about the mental one because the other case might be too obvious.

Have you ever felt so much pain in your heart that you want to rip it out of your chest by your own bare hands just to make it stop? Or you ever felt so much pain in your gut that you feel like someone stabbed you a million times and checking of it actually hurts by stabbing a million times more? If you have, then you know what I mean. The pain of a heartbreak, the pain of death of someone you love, the pain of seeing someone go leaving you stranded alone, the feeling when you get when you feel disappointed or a million time worst, the feeling you get when you know you have unintentionally disappointed someone? All of these are the worst pains imaginable and you have experienced any one of it, you might be thinking about it right about… now.

There is a really good theory that you need to feel the pain to make yourself feel alive. I, for one am not a preacher of that theory, but yes I do understand what they mean. You see people want to feel, pain for example is better than feeling nothing. When you feel nothing, you ARE nothing. You don’t even have empathy, but when you start to feel, even pain, yours or someone else’s you feel alive. You feel human.

Its simple math, you need to feel it to overcome it. You need to be weak today to be stronger tomorrow. You need to experience it to know how to knock it down. It what makes you capable to doing something great. Some people feel pain but choose to ignore it. It’s like taking a painkiller. It just suppresses the pain, doesn’t end it and also it’s harmful for you. Same way when you try to suppress pain, it WILL come back and it might come back when you are at your weakest. So don’t ignore it, fight it.  

Some people feel it easier not to be attached with someone fearing they might leave someday. You NEED to understand that everyone, EVERYONE is going to cause you pain no matter how far or close you are to them. It’s just about deciding which ones are worth. Also, when you are distancing people away you are giving up on a lot of those beautiful moments that you get to feel with people you care about, the people you love. So don’t be an asshole and run away from people, be with them, love them and take care of them. Pain, however more or less will be worth it I promise. 

To be honest I didn’t expected this to go so long. Also you might feel a little dizzy after reading it because I made most of it up while writing, so it’s just a bunch of unorganized thoughts. Weirdly, you can see my entire thought process in here. Anyhow, share. It’s the best thing you can do when you feel pain. Share with people you love or me. I’m always here to help you out whenever you need me.

Thank you for reading it.