Failure

Failure, it is a really tricky word isn’t it? I mean it has different meanings for different people. It basically comes down to not getting something you wanted, or you thought you deserved, and feeling sad in the end. As I stated earlier, I will mean different things to different people, but even for one individual, it may mean different things at different stages of life. In this article, or whatever you call it, I will try my best to explain the various stages of when you feel that you have failed. Why you ask? Well because I have been seeing a lot of people feel like losers in their lives because of petty reasons, in fact they can use this time to be better than they were.

1)      First ever sense of failure starts from back when we are in school, sometimes getting not enough marks in a certain test, or weirdly enough, someone else getting more marks, that you think don’t deserve will make you feel like you are a failure for the rest of your life. It is amusing actually to see kids, even 17 and 18 years old crying over failing to get the marks they expected. Education, even though a great weapon for us to fight for the rest of our lives isn’t the only thing you will need. You might not get the desired marks, and still it doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful in life. The most famous example being Bill Gates, a college drop-out who was just until recently the wealthiest man in the world. Mark Zukerberg, another college drop-out and a founder of Facebook. I can actually quote many more examples, but the point is, education alone, and that too from the top notch institute, is not the only thing you need in life. Keeping this in mind, I would like to clarify that I am not saying it is not important, but it isn’t the only important thing.

2)      Another stage of failure is when someone you love or you thought you did, ditches you or leaves you from some reason. And believe me you; everyone goes from this particular stage. It even include the one sided lovers too. Love, even though important, but you can live without it too. You always have people, like your friends and family to fall back on. Every relationship has its course, and when it ends, people normally think of it as a mistake. When in a relationship, they can’t stop blabbering about each other, on how good and special they are, and how unique is their love, and after the breakup they can’t stop talking about what kind of a jerk the guy was, or how bitchy the girl was and stuff like that. I mean yes, you were in a relationship and you were happy, but if it ends somehow, or for some reason, you should respect the good times you had with each other, not try to cut each other’s throats. Not trying to act Dr. Phil here, but I think you should have respect for someone who you were very much fond of once, and even loved, may be.

3)      Now you have passed school, and you are now over your heartbreak, the next point where you feel like a failure is when you lose a job, sometimes after working for a lesser period of time, and sometimes, and more painful option, working for a longer period of time. Sometimes the company thinks you are not really much good for it and they fire you, basically after giving you one of the most pathetic excuses you will ever hear in your life. It is easier to find a job when you are young, but not when you are, not so young. Even if you have to leave your job during your middle age, there are still no worries, because this might be the time you think about following your passion. Do something for yourself, with yourself. Live all the times that you missed sitting on a chair in your office. If you are honest and hard working, there will be no problem getting a job. There is a saying that there are only two types of people in the world, first who are willing to work, and others who are willing to let them. Don’t feel like a loser if you are not where you wanted to be at a particular stage of your life, be thankful to god that you are still alive and kickin’.

4)       This is probably the last stage of failure and the last stage of life. This is a stage where your children are settled with their own families and you and your spouse are left alone in a house that was once a centre of noise and laughter. This can make even the happiest person on the face of this earth feel sad because many thoughts cross your mind during this time. Was I not a good parent to my children that I have to go through this? The answer is you were the best parent you could be. You got to understand that you have made your child/children able to face the world. They have their own life. You are still a important part of their lives but sometimes, correction, most of the times the circumstances don’t allow for them to come and live with you. You don’t need to feel like a looser now, take this opportunity and fill in all the blanks that you left throughout your life. As they say, enjoy till it lasts, you got to live the last times of your lives by being the best person you can be, the best father, mother, mentor, grandparent and above all, the best human being. Go out and have fun, don’t let age deny you any opportunity; you have lived enough for others, now it is your turn to live it up for yourself.